Monday, June 11, 2007
being naive
yesterday the 5 of us went to watch "The Zodiac". I thought it was a pretty good movie,maybe it is because i like detectives & criminal shows. The real case happened in the late 1960s and it dragged till the 21st century leaving the case unsolved. That's like about 30 yrs ... I like a particular verse inside which says something like "What you cant prove doesnt mean its doesnt exist or is not real"
anyway,i was having a chat with a friend last nite, and it set me thinking once again. Before i start on it, may i ask what is being "naive" to you? Being stupid? Being silly? Or even if you know others might be using you, you still go ahead & let them "use" you?
The dictionary explains "Naive" as
1)having or showing a lack of experience, judgment, or information; credulous
2)having or showing unaffected simplicity of nature or absence of artificiality; unsophisticated; ingenuous.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/naive
The more i grow up, the more scary i find things to be when i look at them. I tried to be nice to the people around me but wherever you go, you always hear that people has ulterior motives (im not saying everyone,but in general) and they try to stab you in the back when he/she is appearing nice & friendly infront you. Familiar? Does it happen to you? Maybe it did happen to the people whom you know.
Sometimes, i find it contradicting in life. In order not to be "taken advantage of ur naiveness" you gotta have a bit of "street smartness" in reality. To my context, being "street-smart" means i might not always be truthful in my speech or reaction. Remember hearing this "another person 's success is another person's failure"?
Its a contradiction to my religion's belief. Do we really need to be "street smart" to survive out there? Somehow as i moved on in life, im starting to see the picture that's portrayed out there. People takes advantage of your kindness since you offer them willingly. No one will stop & say "hey, its enough,you know i can really do all these on my own" Maybe some is genuine in saying that, some maybe on the pretext. How do we know if someone is genuine or pretending then? You will never know, only time can tell.
I've learnt that we need to make a stand for ourselves no matter where we are. We cant always be the "ever-easy-going" peep where you please everyone and hurt yourself in return. "对别人慈祥，就是对自己残任" I am not trying to say that we should be unkind to others, but sometimes, kindness has to be given the right way not the abusive way.
I am still learning the ropes of life, which is a sad thing. I dont wanna be someone who schemes but the world is filled with people who schemes and plays mind games with you. What can i do to protect myself ? Am i to learn the rules of the game so that i may at least block the attacks of the counterparty? This sentence which i've read in one of the chinese composition few years back says "社会是个大染缸" I never thought seriously of what it means, but it appears that even if you wish to remain undyed, you would eventually still be dyed. I feel its like a chain-effect thing. Whatever that happens, has an effect on what the next person would react or think. Its hard to escape the "Dyeing" process, maybe there's a way to, but i've yet to find out.
I feel that i expose myself alot to the people around me (being really truthful in what i say) till a point that this truthfulness (which is supposed to be an advantage)suddenly reverse it position and became a weakness. People caught hold of your truthfulness and take advantage of the situation. Of course i can go on and on typing, but i reckoned there would be no conclusion for my post.
I am trying to learn the ropes as i grow. Maybe what i can start now, is to practice on my "self-control" and also to think deeper instead of seeing what's on the surface. What you see, might not be what you get. Still, i would pray that as i am learning the rules of the game, i will not stain my heart in the process.
What comes out of a man is what makes him "unclean". For from within, out of men's hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and make a man "unclean"
Mark 7-20:23
anyway,i was having a chat with a friend last nite, and it set me thinking once again. Before i start on it, may i ask what is being "naive" to you? Being stupid? Being silly? Or even if you know others might be using you, you still go ahead & let them "use" you?
The dictionary explains "Naive" as
1)having or showing a lack of experience, judgment, or information; credulous
2)having or showing unaffected simplicity of nature or absence of artificiality; unsophisticated; ingenuous.
http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/naive
The more i grow up, the more scary i find things to be when i look at them. I tried to be nice to the people around me but wherever you go, you always hear that people has ulterior motives (im not saying everyone,but in general) and they try to stab you in the back when he/she is appearing nice & friendly infront you. Familiar? Does it happen to you? Maybe it did happen to the people whom you know.
Sometimes, i find it contradicting in life. In order not to be "taken advantage of ur naiveness" you gotta have a bit of "street smartness" in reality. To my context, being "street-smart" means i might not always be truthful in my speech or reaction. Remember hearing this "another person 's success is another person's failure"?
Its a contradiction to my religion's belief. Do we really need to be "street smart" to survive out there? Somehow as i moved on in life, im starting to see the picture that's portrayed out there. People takes advantage of your kindness since you offer them willingly. No one will stop & say "hey, its enough,you know i can really do all these on my own" Maybe some is genuine in saying that, some maybe on the pretext. How do we know if someone is genuine or pretending then? You will never know, only time can tell.
I've learnt that we need to make a stand for ourselves no matter where we are. We cant always be the "ever-easy-going" peep where you please everyone and hurt yourself in return. "对别人慈祥，就是对自己残任" I am not trying to say that we should be unkind to others, but sometimes, kindness has to be given the right way not the abusive way.
I am still learning the ropes of life, which is a sad thing. I dont wanna be someone who schemes but the world is filled with people who schemes and plays mind games with you. What can i do to protect myself ? Am i to learn the rules of the game so that i may at least block the attacks of the counterparty? This sentence which i've read in one of the chinese composition few years back says "社会是个大染缸" I never thought seriously of what it means, but it appears that even if you wish to remain undyed, you would eventually still be dyed. I feel its like a chain-effect thing. Whatever that happens, has an effect on what the next person would react or think. Its hard to escape the "Dyeing" process, maybe there's a way to, but i've yet to find out.
I feel that i expose myself alot to the people around me (being really truthful in what i say) till a point that this truthfulness (which is supposed to be an advantage)suddenly reverse it position and became a weakness. People caught hold of your truthfulness and take advantage of the situation. Of course i can go on and on typing, but i reckoned there would be no conclusion for my post.
I am trying to learn the ropes as i grow. Maybe what i can start now, is to practice on my "self-control" and also to think deeper instead of seeing what's on the surface. What you see, might not be what you get. Still, i would pray that as i am learning the rules of the game, i will not stain my heart in the process.
What comes out of a man is what makes him "unclean". For from within, out of men's hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and make a man "unclean"
Mark 7-20:23
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